I'm sad.
I just put the kids down for a nap and walked back downstairs to crash. As soon as I sat down, I heard loud banging over the monitors. So, I walked back up stairs and found Callie banging on her crib rails with her sippy cup. I took the cup away from her and told her to be quiet or I was going to have to close her door since Wyatt was trying to fall asleep too. Of course, she got upset and started to cry just as she does every single time we put her to sleep. Nothing new. The kid hates naps.
So, I walked back downstairs only to hear, "Mommy's stupid!!!!" belting over the monitors! My knee-jerk reaction was 'OH! HELL NO!' and I jumped back up to head right back upstairs. By the time I reached the top of the stairs, I had to take a moment to stiffle my giggles. It was kinda funny. (Where was she getting that from?!) But, after only a couple more steps to the door of her room, I felt sad and destroyed. My baby hates me.
That girl has a straight path to the root of my heart and holy shit, did it ever sting!
I asked her, "Callie? What did you just say?" to which she responded, "Mommy's stupid." I told her it wasn't a nice thing to say and that it made me sad. Then, I walked back out of her room.
What the hell am I supposed to do with that? Part of me wanted to beat her ass, part of me wanted to laugh, and part of me had just died a little inside. This baby girl, that I love more than breathing air itself, just told me I was stupid.
I know it's just gonna get worse the older she gets, but W-O-W. Now, I'm stuck in an internal prep-rally type of monologue with myself that goes something like, "Come on, Heather. She's two and just trying on different phrases. She didn't mean it. Where did she pick that up?!" over and over.
How am I supposed to discipline her on that one too? I don't want her to hate me more. I'm getting over it, but it's just so shocking because it's the first time that it has happened to me. I have no idea what the proper way is to handle this either. Help! Supernanny!
4 comments:
Of course we are stupid! They know everything. I have never been called stupid but once they said they said they wanted to go live with their dad!!!! That hurt, which in automatic response I said, "go ahead and see how long you last!" That actually scared them and they have never said it again. We might be stupid but they will always love us!
You are an amazing mother and she doesn't mean it. She could never hate you. She loves you more than breathing air too! Sorry your sad. Remember when we used to do that to our moms? I know my day will come soon enough where Hayes does the same thing.
at least it was stupid and not another s word....i can only imagine what names frances will be calling me. i intend to ship her out to friends for a good part of her middle school years.
Your response to her was exactly the right one! they are too young to understand the full impact of their words and to them, they are just words. Letting her know certain words make you sad was perfect. She didn;t mean to hurt you and didn;t at all understand the impact of what she said! She just picked it up somewhere and was repeating! Try not to take it to heart:)
Mine are at the age where I am having to explain that they have to choice and use ALL words correctly because there are consequences to what you say. THAT IS HARD!
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